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  ATTITUDES YOU NEED TO STOP WHEN YOU ARE MARRIED : When married, consider letting go of these attitudes: 1. Possessiveness: Trust and respect boundaries. 2. Competition: Focus on teamwork and mutual support. 3. Criticism: Practice constructive feedback and empathy. 4. Comparison: Appreciate your unique relationship. 5. Selfishness: Cultivate compromise and understanding. 6. Dishonesty: Foster transparency and open communication. 7. Pride: Embrace humility and willingness to apologize. 8. Unforgiveness: Practice forgiveness and letting go. 9. Lack of accountability: Take responsibility for actions. 10. Emotional unavailability: Prioritize emotional intimacy. 11. Disrespect: Treat each other with kindness and respect. 12. Conditional love: Love unconditionally. 13. Unrealistic expectations: Communicate and set realistic goals. 14. Defensiveness: Listen actively and respond thoughtfully. 15. Passive-aggressiveness: Address issues directly. 16. Blame-shifting: Take ownership of mistak...

  HOW NOT TO TALK TO YOUR SPOUSE  1. Don't order your spouse around like a servant. It shows pride. 2. Don't talk to your spouse as if your spouse is a congregant and you are the Bishop. It shows no romantic love. You are not on the pulpit. 3. Don't talk to your husband like he is a child, in a condescending way, "Let me tell immature you what to do". It shows disrespect. 4. Don't talk to your wife as if she is stupid or beneath you. It shows dishonour. 5. Don't command your spouse publicly or on social media "You, come read this". It embarrasses your spouse. Use courteous words "Darling, please check this out", "Honey, we need to wind up and rush to our other meeting". 6. Don't speak to your spouse with a bitter and rude tone. It pushes your spouse away and discourages conversations. 7. Don't shout at your spouse whether you two are alone or in front of the children or house help. It causes trauma. 8. Don't talk t...

  L 9 WAYS TO RESTORE FRIENDSHIP IN YOUR MARRIAGE  Friendship is a critical part of any relationship. It helps in getting along easily and aids sense of humor which can deflate pressure no matter how tensed the atmosphere may be.  Some couples started their marital journey as friends but now the cord of friendship is broken in some unions.  Here are nine ways to restore friendship between you and your spouse.  1. Take stock of the situation and friendship level between you and your spouse. What is lost or what is going away gradually? You need to identify and fix it before it degenerates further. 2. Remember good old days and recreate new beautiful memories together  3. Revisit places and discussions that aid special moments together as lovers and friends. 4. Explore new adventures and activities that will encourage bonding like playing together, watching movies/comedy, cooking or doing chores together. 5. Surprise each other with thoughtful gestures and ac...

  SIGNS THAT YOU ARE READY FOR MARRIAGE 1. As a lady, you are at least 21 years old and the man is at least 25 years old. 2. You have a job/ business that can take care of you, your wife and at least a baby. 3. As a man you have your own apartment and you pay all your bills by yourself. 4. As a lady, you can take good care of yourself and another person without any stress. 4. You love children and hope to have yours. 5. You enjoy cooking and do house chores without being told. 6. You can live at least a thousand miles away from your parents. 7. You can make major decisions about your life and face the consequence. 8. You are no longer under the control and command of your parents. 9. You do not yield to peer pressure. You do what needs to be done regardless of what anyone feels. 10. You are sexually responsible. You know how to say NO to premarital sex and mean it. 11. As a lady you have a good relationship with your dad and you are submissive to authorities. 12. As a man, you love...