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  FAMILY, PLACE OF FORGIVENESS ... ©️ There is no perfect family. ©️ We do not have perfect parents, - you are not perfect yourself. We do not marry a perfect person or we do not have perfect children. ©️ We have complaints from each other. We can not live together without offending one another. ©️ We are constantly disappointed. Yes for so many reasons at different times we are disappointed by one another. ©️ There is no healthy marriage or healthy family without the exercise of forgiveness. Forgiveness is the medicine of family joy and happiness. ©️ Forgiveness is vital to our emotional health and spiritual survival. No matter the offence or who is the offender. Without forgiveness, the family becomes an arena of conflict and a fortress of evil. ©️ Without forgiveness, the family becomes sick and unhealthy. ©️ Forgiveness is the asepsis of the soul, the purification of the spirit and the liberation of the heart. No sin is too big to be forgiven. He who does not forgive do...

  *HOW TO MAKE YOUR SPOUSE ENJOY SPENDING TIME WITH YOU* *1. DO THINGS THAT YOUR SPOUSE ENJOYS* Don’t just think about what you like when you are together, consider your spouse  *2. AVOID ARGUMENTS* Being argumentative makes your spouse not look forward to being near you. Not everything has to be a fight *3. MAINTAIN GOOD HYGIENE* Sometimes your spouse can keep off being near you because of sweat or foul smell *4. TAKE CARE OF YOUR SPOUSE'S EMOTIONS*  It will be difficult to be physically close if you two are not emotionally close. You become emotionally close by apologizing when you wrong, hearing your spouse and speaking with kindness and love *5. BE HUMOROUS* Being around you should often be fun. Be playful, cheeky, not taking everything personal *6. RESPOND TO YOUR SPOUSE'S ADVANCES* When your spouse flirts with you, flirt back. When your spouse hugs you, don't be rigid. Continue the dance your spouse starts *7. GIVE ATTENTION* If you will be with your spouse physical...

  MARRIAGE IS GIVE AND TAKE 1. When a woman is humble, she becomes a natural charm to her husband 2. When a woman is submissive, she gets what she desires from her husband 3. When a woman is trustworthy, she can control her husband's finances 4. When a woman is hospitable, she can host her husband's meetings 5. When a woman is friendly, she becomes her husband's best friend 6. When a woman is jovial and playful, she can unlock her husband's sad mood 7. When a woman is appreciative, she receives unexpected gifts from her husband 8. When a woman is respectful, she can attend her husband's cultural meetings with him 9. When a woman is understandable, her husband feels free to tell her even the ugly 10. When a woman is peaceful, her husband comes rushing home each time 11. When a woman is tender hearted, she makes a great mother for her kids 12. When a woman is slow tempered, she knows when to approach her husband in times of misunderstandings and arguments 13. When a w...

  SIGNS THAT YOUR MARRIAGE IS NOT GREAT   Sometimes, we do have a fake assessment of our marriage. Some think their marriages are doing very great, but the truth is their marriages are very poor and not progressive. Here let us examine some habits in your marriage that show it's not great.   1. YOU GO TO BED AT DIFFERENT TIMES One simple thing, but very important, is the couple lying down to sleep together. You may have different work schedules and studies, but it is worth struggling to maintain this habit. Sometimes the day is so tumultuous, that the only time the couple has to stay together, to know how each other’s day was, to hug and caress each other is bedtime. And it’s so good to sleep together with the loved one!   2. YOU LOVE YOUR JOBS MORE THAN YOUR SPOUSE This is a bad habit. Your job comes first in your heart and you don't care whatever happens to your spouse. You never remember that you will leave that office one day, no matter how good you are on the jo...

  WHAT KILLS LOVE? 🤔 1. LACK OF COMMUNICATION The less you two communicate, the more you two slowly learn to live without each other. The more you two take breaks from each other, the faster love dies.  2. ENDLESS FIGHTS Constant fighting will make you two avoid each other for the sake of peace, thus drifting apart. 3. LACK OF MUTUAL ACTIVITIES Yes, you two might be in different careers and have different likes; but if you don't have common activities to do together, the bond will fade. 4. AFFAIRS Affairs distract, your love for each other withers 5. ADDICTIONS Addictions such as porn or alcohol take the best of our time and we end up defending the addiction more than the relationship, we get too hooked to see how we are neglecting or hurting our partner. 6. THIRD PARTIES You might end up siding with third parties such as parents, friends or siblings to the point that they pull you away from your spouse. 7. LACK OF APPRECIATION The more appreciation lacks, the more loving sta...

  HOW TO SETTLE MISUNDERSTANDINGS IN A RELATIONSHIP‼️‼️ 1. Know that it is normal for two people in love to disagree, offend each other, fall short, or misunderstand each other 2. Always remember how much you love and need each other. Remembering this will give you the incentive to resolve any conflict between you two. Don't throw away true love because of a passing storm 3. Know each other's temperaments. If you are a hot-tempered person, tell your partner/spouse so that your partner/spouse will prepare incase you spark off. But work on your temper still 4. Agree how to handle fights before fights emerge. A nation develops a constitution to guide its operation, partners/spouses agree on what to do to guide in relations 5. Don't let the fear of fighting or disagreeing with your partner/spouse keep you two from confronting each other and expressing your feelings. Too many are tired, bored, frustrated or angry in their relationship/marriage but pretend all is well because the...

MARRIAGE IS FOR PEACEMAKERS 1. Marriage is for two people who would rather maintain their love than win arguments against each other  2. Marriage is for people who know when not to speak till tempters cool  3. Marriage is for emotionally stable people who are able to not act or say irrational things just because they feel like it  4. Marriage is not a place for wars, settling scores and tit for tats, but a place for seeking solutions 5. Marriage is not a place that adds to your stress but a safe haven, where you run to after a hard day 6. Marriage is for two people who choose not to react to issues but to respond to them. Reacting is self seeking, instant and not thought through the consequences; responding is looking out for the best interest of the both of you and being prudent  7. Marriage is a place where anger is seen as a normal human emotion but that anger gets neutralized with love so that it doesn't become a threat 8. Marriage is not a place for shouting ma...

  EVERY MARRIAGE NEEDS HEALTHY BOUNDARIES 1. PUT BOUNDARIES OF INFORMATION Don’t share everything about your marriage with outsiders. Some information is sacred and personal 2. PUT BOUNDARIES IN YOUR HOUSE People shouldn't just walk in and out of your house. Both of you should determine who comes in, when and for how long 3. PUT BOUNDARIES IN CONVERSATIONS Be unapologetic about walking away or stopping conversations that disrespect your marriage or your spouse  4. PUT BOUNDARIES IN YOUR INNER CIRCLE You can be social and friendly, but be specific and discerning who you allow closest to you because they impact you and your marriage  5. PUT BOUNDARIES FOR WORK Work hard and smart to pursue your purpose and provide for your family but not at the expense of quality time with your family. Have a work-family balance  6. PUT BOUNDARIES FROM EXTERNAL IDEAS There are many ideas being propagated in the world, not all of it is helpful. Choose wisely. Avoid especially online ide...

  DO NOT LOOSE A GOOD MAN BECAUSE HE IS BROKE: Wise words! Don't lose a good man because of temporary financial struggles. Here's why: Good Character is Rare 1. Kindness, empathy, and compassion are valuable traits. 2. Integrity, honesty, and loyalty are essential. 3. A good heart and positive attitude are priceless. Financial Struggles are Temporary 1. Financial situations can change quickly. 2. Hard work and determination can lead to success. 3. Support and encouragement can help overcome challenges. Wealth isn't Everything 1. Money can't buy happiness or love. 2. Material possessions don't guarantee fulfillment. 3. Relationships built on trust, respect, and communication last. Good Men are hard to Find 1. Loyalty, commitment, and dedication are rare. 2. Emotional intelligence and maturity are valuable. 3. A partner who values you beyond material possessions is precious. Focus on shared Values 1. Similar goals, interests, and passions. 2. Mutual respect, trust, an...

  3 GROUP OF PEOPLE YOU SHOULD UNDERSTAND AS A LEADER 1. The Bull Runner.   These are people who resist correction and thrive on confrontation. Even when you try to help or guide them, they often fight back. They are usually self-centered and unwilling to grow.   Traits of Bull Runners:   - They complain and argue frequently.   - They focus on themselves, often ignoring others' needs.   - They may be strong and creative but lack the social skills to work well with others.   Skill without character is meaningless. While their strength can be useful, their resistance to growth often limits their potential. Learn to set boundaries with such individuals.   2. The Horse Runner.   Horse Runners are dependable, effective, and loyal. They are always ready to support and sacrifice for you, even though they may not appear physically strong. They are rare and highly valuable.   Traits of Horse Runners:...

  SEVEN THINGS YOU SHOULD GIVE YOUR SPOUSE DAILY👌👌👌 When it comes to giving, many married people are generous to everybody except their spouses. There are seven things you should give your spouse daily – not weekly, monthly or annually. They are things you must give your spouse daily. Let’s see them: 1. Give Your Spouse A TOUCH One of the ways to bond with your spouse is to give him or her a touch. We have encouragement touch, affirmation touch, healing touch, apology touch, and we have sexual touch. Study your partner and know what touch to give at a particular time. If you want God to touch your marriage, touch your spouse. Don’t let today go without you touching your spouse! 2. Give Your Spouse SPACE As much as you need to bond with your spouse and be together for daily intimacy, communication, affection, planning, etc., you still need to give your spouse his or her space. There is time for couples’ prayers, time for couples’ bonding. Also there is time for personal prayer, p...

  HOW TO HANDLE FIGHTS IN A RELATIONSHIP 1. Know that it is normal for two people in love to disagree, offend each other, fall short, or misunderstand each other 2. Always remember how much you love and need each other. Remembering this will give you the incentive to resolve any conflict between you two. Don't throw away true love because of a passing storm 3. Know each other's temperaments. If you are a hot-tempered person, tell your partner/spouse so that your partner/spouse will prepare incase you spark off. But work on your temper still 4. Agree how to handle fights before fights emerge. A nation develops a constitution to guide its operation, partners/spouses agree on what to do to guide in relations 5. Don't let the fear of fighting or disagreeing with your partner/spouse keep you two from confronting each other and expressing your feelings. Too many are tired, bored, frustrated or angry in their relationship/marriage but pretend all is well because they are afraid of...

  27 GREAT WAYS TO BUILD A HAPPY AND LONG LASTING MARRIAGE Marriage is a beautiful and fulfilling relationship that requires commitment, love, and sacrifice. No matter what culture you belong to, what religion you believe, what society, level of wealth, or era you live in – one thing common to all people is that they want to be "happy", especially in their marriages. What Should you do?  1. Love the person you married, not the person you hoped you married. Accept your spouse totally. You cannot love a man/woman you do not accept. Stop comparing your spouse with anyone, he or she can never be somebody else. Until you accept your spouse, you can't get the best out of your marriage 2. Understand each other. No marriage succeeds without understanding. Learn to know one another as best as you can. Understand you are not the same and may never be. Respect that you are both individuals. Get to know each other strengths and weaknesses. Strengthen each other's weaknesses. 3. ...

  Text: Neh 6:2-9 O God, Strengthen Our Hands   Introduction: We thank God who over the years, has sustained and kept us and who is able to keep us to the uttermost. It is always good to have a review of one’s life in this journey of faith. No matter how strong a man is there comes a time of weakness – Isa 40:30. “Even youths grow tired and weary, young men stumble and fall, but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength, they will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint,”. Thank God that those who wait or hope in the Lord will not grow tired or weary.   Lord, Strengthen Our Hands: Today, our prayer focus will be ‘O Lord, strengthen our hands’. In the journey of faith, as we see in the passage that we read, there are factors and elements that can make a man derail: (‘1) Distraction – “Sanballat  and Geshem sent me this message: “Come, let us meet together in one of the villages on the plain of Ono”. (2) D...

  WALKING IN DOMINION “Now when Jesus was born in Bethlehem of Judaea in the days of Herod the king, behold, there came wise men from the east to Jerusalem,” (Matthew 2: 1) That is the Focal Scripture of Streams of Joy Devotional today. Our Focal Scripture makes mention of how Herod reigned over Judah. According to Bible History, the lineage of Herod came from Edom. The family of Herod came from Edom to rule over people in Israel. Notice that God had said concerning Esau (Edom) and Jacob (Israel), that the older (Esau) will serve the younger (see Genesis 25 vs. 23). Several years later, the children of Israel became servants and subjects under sons of Esau (Edom). Friend, hear me as I hear the Lord: whatsoever God has empowered you to rule over, will not turn around and rule over you. Whatsoever the Lord has given to be under your dominion, will not dominate over you. Whatsoever God has put under you will not arise and preside over you. No Herod will reign over you. No wicked man w...

  THE HARDEST PART OF MARRIAGE YOU WON'T BE TOLD Marriage is sweet when you examine it from a far, of those who have successful marriage or the lovey-dovey of newlyweds, but when you enter into, you will discover that what is behind number six is more than number seven.  Many prepare so well for the romantic aspects of marriage, but very few groom themselves for the realities in marriage. Do you know that the hardest part of marriage plays a dominant role in marriage than the romantic moments? However, what breaks marriage isn't the lack of romance, but the couple's inability to withstand the hardest part of marriage.  There are some hard things about marriage that you are not likely to be told, but I will only share 5 of them with you. 1. Staying faithful It's easy to abstain from sex as singles if you have not tasted how sweet sex is, but it's very difficult to stay faithful in marriage when you are denied sex for no just reason.  The temptation to commit adultery...

  WATCHING IN ALL THINGS Texts: Mattew 26:41,45; 13:3-6; Luke 21:36   Introduction: More than ever before the time we are in now calls for watching In All Things. This is the time to be extra ordinary careful. So many things appear to be “true” but they are not. Almost everything and everybody would be fake or faked. These are days when it has become increasingly difficult to know who is a friend and who is an enemy.   But glory be to God, we have a friend who is closer to us than a brother. He said: “I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends for everything that I learned from my Father, I have made known to you” John 15:15. Hymn: “ I have found a friend in Jesus…” I HAVE FOUND A FRIEND IN JESUS I have found a friend in Jesus, He’s everything to me, He’s the fairest of ten thousand to my soul; The Lily of the Valley, in Him alone I see All I need to cleanse and make me fully whole. In sorr...