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  TOLERANCE in Marriage.. *T – Trust*   Marriage thrives on trust, which builds a strong foundation for enduring love.   *Proverbs 3:5* "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding." Trust your spouse even when it looks as if (S)he is not saying the truth.  *O – Overlooking Offenses*   Tolerance requires letting go of minor or major faults and not keeping records of wrongs.   *Proverbs 19:11* "A person’s wisdom yields patience; it is to one’s glory to overlook an offense."   *L – Love Unconditionally*   Love in marriage must be selfless, patient, and enduring.   *1 Corinthians 13:4-7* "Love is patient, love is kind... it keeps no record of wrongs."   *E – Empathy*   Understanding your spouse’s feelings and perspectives promotes tolerance.   *Romans 12:15* "Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn."   *R – Respect*...

  KILLERS OF MARRIAGE 1. Laziness kills marriage. 2. Suspicion kills marriage. 3. Lack of Trust kills marriage. 4. Lack of Mutual Respect kills marriage. 5. Unforgiveness, Bitterness, Hatred, Malice, and Anger kill marriage. 6. Unnecessary Arguments kill marriage. 7. Keeping Secrets from Your Spouse kills marriage. 8. Infidelity (financial, emotional, psychological, material, etc.) kills marriage. 9. Poor Communication kills marriage. 10. Lies easily kill marriage; be sincere with your spouse in every aspect. 11. Prioritizing Parents/Family Over Your Spouse kills marriage. 12. Lack of or Unenjoyable Intimacy kills marriage. 13. Nagging kills marriage. 14. Too Much Talk and Careless Talk kill marriage. 15. Spending Little Time with Your Spouse kills marriage. 16. Being Too Independent-Minded kills marriage. 17. Love for Partying, Money, Impulse Buying, and Financial Indiscipline kills marriage. 18. Exposing Your Spouse's Inadequacies to Your Parents or Siblings kills marriage. 19. N...

  BEFORE YOU SAY I DO  Marriage isn’t competition !Let no one or situation push or pressure you into what you aren’t prepared for !Marriage isn’t wedding ceremony !Marriage is a life time matter.Marriage is hard-work.It is better to suffer some pains of waiting now than to be sorry in marriage .You need to be patient and never hurry.Based on my marriage experience,I can say boldly that ten broken relationship is better than a broken marriage !You have got to take your time and get it so that you will not suffer later.Being a single sister or brother doesn’t make you less important than the married .Don’t let anyone paint a picture to make you inferior or less .There is time for everything so BEFORE YOU SAY YES I DO.Ask yourself these questions 1:Have you prayed through ?Have you got clarification and confirmation on what the mind of God is about him or her ?Is he or she God’s will for your life .Is he or she God’s plan for you ?Make sure you pray and commit it to God. Prover...

  *GO AND SIN NO MORE*‼️ ❣️   *Why did Jesus tell people to “go and sin no more” if sinlessness is impossible?*  There are two instances in the New Testament when Jesus told someone to “sin no more,” and they were each under very different circumstances. The first is when Jesus healed an invalid by the Pool of Bethesda (John 5:1–15). Afterward, Jesus found the man and told him, “See, you are well again. Stop sinning or something worse may happen to you” (verse 14). It is clear that Jesus knew what had caused the man’s condition. We are not told the specifics of the man’s physical impairment, but the context implies that it was caused by sinful choices. Jesus warned the man that he had been given a second chance and that he should make better choices. If the man returned to his sinful behavior, he would have wasted the opportunity Jesus gave him to live whole and forgiven. The second instance is in the account of the woman taken in the act of adultery (John 8:3–11). W...

  SEVEN THINGS YOU SHOULD GIVE YOUR SPOUSE DAILY...✍🏾 When it comes to giving, many married people are generous to everybody except their spouses. There are seven things you should give your spouse daily – not weekly, monthly or annually. They are things you must give your spouse daily. Let’s see them: 1. Give Your Spouse A TOUCH One of the ways to bond with your spouse is to give him or her a touch. We have encouragement touch, affirmation touch, healing touch, apology touch, and we have sexual touch. Study your partner and know what touch to give at a particular time. If you want God to touch your marriage, touch your spouse. Don’t let today go without you touching your spouse! 2. Give Your Spouse SPACE As much as you need to bond with your spouse and be together for daily intimacy, communication, affection, planning, etc., you still need to give your spouse his or her space. There is time for couples’ prayers, time for couples’ bonding. Also there is time for personal prayer, p...

  *SILLY MARRIAGE MISTAKES* 1. Don't ignore your wife the whole day, and expect her to be warm towards you at night 2. Don't shout at your husband and speak to him with disrespect and a tough tone, and expect he will enjoy talking with you 3. Don't be so guarded with your phone and expect your partner not to be suspicious 4. Don't be dramatic in your demeanor and expect your partner will enjoy going out on dates with you 5. Don't cheat or make your partner think you are cheating and expect him/her to easily have sex with you 6. Don't veer away from God and expect your marriage will be exceedingly blessed  7. Don't judge your partner and keep reminding your partner of their wrongs and expect your partner will be confiding in you about their unpleasant truths and struggles 8. Don't turn down your partner's sexual advances repeatedly and expect your partner will still desire you and pursue you 9. Don't mistreat your partner in public and expect your...

  ADVICE TO MARRIED WOMEN ‼️ 1. Never have a close relationship with any Man, single or Married By whatever name, spiritual brother, Colleague, Neighbor, House boy or men to Friends.✅ 2. Never get emotionally attached to any man other than your own legally married husband.✅ 3. Avoid Celebrating any man apart from your husband, father and brother. Don't send wrong signals to men.✅ 4. Always bear in mind that the man who cheaply offers himself to you will offer himself to anybody and it will hurt you. ✅ 5. Never take advantage of any man who is for you, don't do it, you are in the place of trust, don't destroy your life.✅ 6. Never give emotional assistance to any man at work, in the neighbourhood or anywhere without the consent and cooperation of your husband, this will be safe for you in future.✅ 7. Never meet with men in lonely places, parked Cars, street corners✅ 8. Never allow your heart to lust after any man, there is nothing they have that your husband does not have eve...

  💍THE OTHER SIDE OF MARRIAGE THEY DON'T SHOW YOU ❤️ On social media, we see beautiful pictures and videos of couples loving up on each other and doing public displays of affection, a.k.a PDA. 😘👫 👨‍❤️‍👨  Behind your keyboard, you are smiling ☺️, blushing 😍, awning 🥰 and "God whennig" 😩 You can't wait to get married to start doing your own. Little did you know that, there is another side of marriage they don't show you, the BTS(behind the scenes) of their marriage. Behind the lovey-dovey pictures and videos of couples you see online, there is a behind-the-scenes they don't show you.  Most of the pictures and videos you see, they're celebrating their victories and results behind the scenes.  What I want to show you in this post is the other side of marriage you don't get to see.  I have a couple living in my compound who have been married for years now and yet they don't have a child.  Since I have been living here, I have never for once seen...