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  *_Resting in God’s Supply: The Power of Contentment_* The Lord provides for His people. This is a truth that we must hold on to, especially when we face times of uncertainty or lack. God’s provision is not just about meeting our material needs; it’s about knowing that He is our source and that He cares for us in every aspect of our lives. *"And my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus"* (Philippians 4:19).  However, there is an important lesson that accompanies the Lord’s provision: the need to be content with what He has given us. Contentment is a powerful expression of trust in God’s goodness and timing. The Apostle Paul reminds us of this when he writes, *"I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content"* (Philippians 4:11). Whether in abundance or in need, Paul understood that true satisfaction comes not from what we have but from our relationship with Christ. Discontentment often stems from comparing ourselves wi...

  HOW TO PREPARE FOR MARRIAGE AS A YOUNG MAN: Preparing for marriage as a young man involves personal growth, financial stability, and relationship development. Consider the following steps: 1. Self-reflection: Understand your values, goals, and expectations. 2. Emotional maturity: Develop emotional intelligence, stability, and resilience. 3. Financial stability: Establish a steady income, manage debt, and build savings. 4. Communication skills: Cultivate active listening, honesty, and conflict resolution. 5. Relationship experience: Learn from past relationships and understand what you want. 6. Independence: Develop personal interests, hobbies, and friendships. 7. Family and friends: Nurture supportive relationships with loved ones. 8. Personal growth: Pursue education, self-improvement, and spiritual development. 9. Compatibility: Find a partner with shared values, goals, and expectations. 10. Premarital counseling: Explore expectations, conflicts, and relationship dynamics. 11. ...

  HOW TO HANDLE FIGHTS IN A RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE: 1. Know that it is normal for two people in love to disagree, offend each other, fall short, or misunderstand each other 2. Always remember how much you love and need each other. Remembering this will give you the incentive to resolve any conflict between you two. Don't throw away true love because of a passing storm 3. Know each other's temperaments. If you are a hot-tempered person, tell your partner/spouse so that your partner/spouse will prepare incase you spark off. But work on your temper still 4. Agree how to handle fights before fights emerge. A nation develops a constitution to guide its operation, partners/spouses agree on what to do to guide in relations 5. Don't let the fear of fighting or disagreeing with your partner/spouse keep you two from confronting each other and expressing your feelings. Too many are tired, bored, frustrated or angry in their relationship/marriage but pretend all is well because they are...

  *_Christ Is Enough: The Ultimate Fulfillment in Life and Eternity_* In a world filled with distractions, pursuits, and endless desires, it's vital to remember that Christ is enough. He transcends all that life offers and stands as the ultimate source of fulfillment and purpose. As we journey through life, let us anchor ourselves in the truth that having Christ is more than enough – both in our temporal existence and for eternity. Philippians 3:8 captures the apostle Paul's perspective: *"Yet indeed I also count all things loss for the excellence of the knowledge of Christ Jesus my Lord, for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and count them as rubbish, that I may gain Christ."* Paul recognized that all the world's accolades and achievements paled in comparison to knowing Christ intimately. Christ is more than life itself. In John 14:6, Jesus boldly declares, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me....

  How The Mighty Fall  Introduction: 2 Sam. 1:25-27 A mighty man of God is the one who carries His anointing, His power, and His grace anywhere he goes. When we talk about mighty men who fell, we are talking about men on whose heads the Spirit of God once upon a time descended and chose to abide, remain on them, and fill them with the grace and power of God.  The reality is that Satan recognizes them. His tactics to make a mighty man of God fall as he did in the case of Adam, Samson, Esau, Saul, David, Judas, Demas, and even Moses, have not changed. The first step in his tactics is to misdirect the focus of God's generals who will not guard their lives jealously.  1. In the case of Samson, it was women. 2. In the case of Esau, it was food. 3. In the case of Saul, it was a lack of patience. 4. In the case of David, it was social status and woman. 5. In the case of Moses, it was anger. 6. In the case of Judas, it was mammon (money). 7. the In case of Demas, it was the...

  The Cost of Following Jesus We know from Scripture that salvation is a free gift that Jesus gives us when we believe in Him. But just because our salvation is free—that doesn’t mean the rest of our lives with Jesus will cost us nothing as well. Jesus says that following Him will cost us everything. This doesn’t mean that we have to earn our salvation or work for acceptance, but it does mean that following Jesus requires everything that we have. When we become disciples of Jesus, we follow in His footsteps. We let Jesus teach and guide us. If we are serious about this, then our lives will become patterned after His life. This means that just as Jesus took up a cross and gave up everything He had, by following Jesus we must also do the same. So what does it mean to take up a cross and follow Jesus? It means that we should be ready to give up everything for the sake of Jesus. It means denying ourselves by surrendering our own desires and plans for God’s desires and plans. Rather tha...

  *_The Guilt of Knowing: When We Want to Sin Without the Consequences_* Have you ever felt judged because you wanted to do something wrong? Maybe you even blamed others for making you feel guilty, thinking, _“They just don’t understand me.”_ But deep down, you know the truth. You feel judged because you know what’s right, and your conscience is telling you that others can see the wrong you want to do. In moments like these, the real issue is not the judgment of others but the truth that already lives in you. *"For if our heart condemns us, God is greater than our heart, and knows all things"* (1 John 3:20). The guilt you feel isn’t just coming from external judgment; it’s coming from the conviction in your own heart. You already know what’s right and wrong because God has placed His moral law within you. When you desire to do wrong but feel the weight of guilt, it’s often because you’re resisting the truth. *"For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungo...

  DON'T PLAN FOR A BIG WEDDING, PLAN FOR A BIG FUTURE Many couples intending to get married only plan for their weddings not how they are going to live there after for example when they have their first child, retirement etc To the young and upcoming newly wedded couples to be, May I offer the following advice?  1. Plan for the Short-Term thus the next 5-10 years: 2. Financial Planning: 3. Start saving: Set aside a portion of your income each month, even if it's a small amount. 4. Create a budget: Track expenses to understand where your money is going. 5. Invest wisely: Consider low-risk investments, like index funds or retirement accounts. 6. Career Development 7. Set career goals: Identify what you want to achieve in your profession. 8. Build skills: Invest in courses, training, or certifications to enhance your career prospects. 9. Network: Attend industry's events, join professional organizations, or connect with mentors. 10. Relationship Building: 11. Communicate openl...

  Why Do Bad things Happen to Good People? Text: 2 Corinthians 12:1-10 DISCUSS: Three things you can do when Tragedies, Deaths and Disappointments come your way: 1. You can become bitter and blame God. Like the Israelites in Numbers 14:2, they murmured, and complained! 2. You can become pitiful and pity yourself. But Remember that when unfavorable circumstance comes your way you are not the only one suffering, and REMEMBER WHAT JESUS WENT THROUGH ON THE CROSS! 3.You can Trust God and accept it. II Cor. 4: 15-18 Romans 8:28 says: And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. SOME OF THE REASONS BAD THINGS HAPPEN TO GOOD PEOPLE ARE STATED BELOW: 1.TO BRING HONOR AND GLORY TO GOD II Cor. 12:7 - Lest I should be exalted above measure there was given to me a thorn in the flesh, the messenger of satan to buffet me, lest I be exalted above measure. The Bible is very plain that God puts trials in our path. J...

  Be the Example Have you ever felt too young—or too old—to do something important? Too small for a big job? Too inexperienced to contribute something meaningful? Too underqualified to make a real difference? In the book of 1 Timothy, which is a God-inspired letter from Paul to his “son in the faith,” Timothy, Paul equips and encourages Timothy in things like doctrine, leadership, and living out the ways of God. He writes:  “Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity.” ‭‭1 Timothy‬ ‭4‬:‭12‬ ‭NIV‬‬ If you’ve ever felt too young, remember that God has purposefully put you here, at this specific time in history. He desires to use your passion, drive, vision, energy, and ideas to magnify His glory. You see things from a unique vantage point, and that is a great thing. If you’ve ever felt too old, remember that God has purposefully put you here, at this specific time in history...

  *_Marriage: Holding On to God Together_* Marriage is not just about love and companionship—it’s a covenant that requires sacrifice, commitment, and relationship, both with each other and with God. It is not simply about holding on to each other during the difficult times; it’s about holding on to God together. Without a foundation in Christ, no marriage can truly thrive as it was intended to by God. One of the most important decisions you will make in life is who you marry, which is why Scripture warns us to be careful. *"Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers"* (2 Corinthians 6:14). Marrying someone who is godly, someone who is truly born again, is vital. It’s not enough for your spouse to claim they are a Christian; their life should bear the *fruit of the Spirit*, which includes love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23). In a godly marriage, the couple’s relationship with God becomes the fo...

  *_Embracing Your Desperate Need for Jesus_* It's easy to get caught up in our own plans, dreams, and responsibilities. We often find ourselves striving for success, happiness, and fulfillment through our own efforts. But in the midst of our busyness, there's a truth that we sometimes forget: our desperate need for Jesus. Life has a way of showing us our limitations, our vulnerabilities, and our inadequacies. It's during these moments that we should pause and remember that we were never meant to navigate life's challenges on our own. Our need for Jesus is not a sign of weakness; it's a recognition of our human nature and our dependence on the One who is greater than ourselves. The psalmist understood this when he wrote, *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves such as have a contrite spirit"* (Psalm 34:18). When we realize our desperate need for Jesus, it opens the door to His presence and His saving grace. It's in our brokenness...

  *_Navigating the Narrow Path: A Bold Stand for Truth_* In a world that often values open-mindedness and broad perspectives, some may find themselves labeled as narrow-minded for holding firm to their faith and convictions. But take heart, for being _"narrow-minded"_ in the eyes of the world does not mean being wrong. In fact, the Bible tells us that the path of life is a narrow one. Jesus Himself declared, *"Enter by the narrow gate; for wide is the gate and broad is the way that leads to destruction, and there are many who go in by it. Because narrow is the gate and difficult is the way which leads to life, and there are few who find it."* (Matthew 7:13-14). It's important to understand that this narrow path is not about being close-minded or exclusive. Rather, it's about being discerning and intentional in our choices. Just as a narrow road requires careful navigation, our journey of faith demands purposeful commitment to the truth and teachings of Chris...

  61 GUIDING SEXUAL RULES FOR MARRIED MEN A Very Beautiful Wife in her late 30s walked into my office some weeks ago dejected, looking for help. Her problem, her Husband of more than 10 years, the Father of her 3 Children abandoned her a d ran away with a 62 years old retiree who was his Business Partner. Few days later another Woman came whose Husband impregnated her best friend who was Chief bride made in her Wedding. Just few days ago a Woman also came this time with her husband, he was caught sleeping with the Housemaid. Hearing these stories and many more of them compelled me to write this piece because I discover lots of Married Men are carelessly breaking Sexual rules and Marriage ethics putting themselves in ugly situations, scandalizing themselves, destroying beautiful lives hurting beautiful Homes. 1. Never have a close relationship with any Lady, single or Married By whatever name, spiritual Daughter, secretary, Colleague, Neighbor, House Maids, Wives of Friends. 2. Neve...

  *_From Blame to Growth: God's Plan for Strengthening Relationships_* Why are we so quick to blame our loved ones when things aren’t going well in our relationships? This tendency goes all the way back to Adam and Eve. In Genesis 3, when sin entered the world, both Adam and Eve engaged in blatant blame-shifting. When God confronted Adam, he pointed to Eve, saying, *"The woman whom You gave to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I ate"* (Genesis 3:12). Eve, in turn, blamed the serpent. This pattern of deflecting responsibility has been present since the fall of humanity. But God’s Word reminds us that we are each responsible for our own actions and behavior. *"For each one shall bear his own load"* (Galatians 6:5). When we are quick to blame our spouse or loved one, we often overlook our own contributions to the problem. Instead of focusing on what they did wrong, we must first examine ourselves and see what we can change. Blaming your spouse stimulates res...

  *_Discernment in the 'God Told Me' Era: A Call for Accountability_* In today’s Christian world, we hear many voices proclaiming, _“God told me this,”_ or _“God revealed that to me.”_ Perhaps God does use people to speak His truth, as He has done in the past. But we need to exercise discernment whenever someone claims to have received a direct word from God. Not every message spoken in His name comes from Him. The Bible makes it clear that everything spoken must be tested against Scripture. *"Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits, whether they are of God"* (1 John 4:1). If someone says _“God told me,”_ we must carefully compare what they say with the Word of God. The Holy Spirit will never contradict the Bible, so anything that doesn’t align with Scripture is not from God. It’s also important to remember that those who claim to prophesy or speak on God’s behalf must remain humble and accountable. *"Pride goes before destruction, and a haught...

  THE PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE  Introduction: The purpose of Marriage and the very foundation of the home can be seen from the scriptures in Genesis 2:18, which recorded God saying, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make a helper suitable for him.”. For the latter part of that scripture verse, some translations say, “I will make a helper suitable for him”. The understanding from the above scripture is that the plan or intention of God for bringing man and woman together in marriage is so that they can be helpers one to the other to fulfil the following: 1. Fellowship with God: The dictionary defines fellowship as the relationship of people who share interests or feelings. We see from the scriptures that God’s original purpose for creating man is so that there can be such a relationship. God’s original purpose for man is therefore enhanced with the coming together of the two people in a marriage who then make the marriage and home a starting point for fellowship with G...

  When Leaders Fall: Grace, Accountability, and Prayer In recent times, we have seen more Christian leaders fall into sin and be removed from positions of leadership due to secret sin or inappropriate relationships. While these events are heartbreaking, they serve as a reminder of the vulnerability of every believer, including those in leadership. *"Therefore let him who thinks he stands take heed lest he fall"* (1 Cor 10:12). No one is immune to temptation, and Satan often targets leaders, knowing their influence can impact many. It is important to remember that Christian leaders are human too. They are sinners saved by grace, just like the rest of us. Leaders face immense spiritual pressure, and Satan seeks to destroy their testimony to cause doubt and division among the body of Christ. When a leader falls, we should be saddened, but not shaken in our faith. Our faith should rest in Christ, not in any one person. *"For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God...

  *ACCORDING TO THE PATTERN* Ex. 25:40, Heb. 8:5 The pattern of God from creation till now for any physical or spiritual work that lasts for eternity is man. Whenever useable, ready, sanctified, and prepared men are scarce in any generation, there will be a scarcity of *GOD'S WORD*, *GOD'S POWER*,  *GOD'S ANOINTING* in the means of His people. Every man God uses for His work must know what He wants, how He wants His work to be done, and with what attitude we must do His work. That is God's pattern. The pattern of God for any man who will do His work on earth is that you must be holy. 1 Pet. 1:16. Nadab and Abihu offered strange fire unto God.  They died because they did not use the special fire Moses commanded them to use. Lev. 10:1&2 NCV.  Strange fire can be anything you offer to God but not according to the pattern. It is that thing that God will never put His seal or stamp of authority upon no matter your status. The glory of God appeared to the people at the...

  EVERY HUSBAND SHOULD KNOW THIS 1. You Failed as a HUSBAND if you give your parents and siblings negative information against your WIFE. 2. You Failed as a HUSBAND if you watch your parents and siblings bully and abuse your WIFE in every little thing. 3. You Failed as a HUSBAND if you fail to have your own Garden of Eden, allowing your WIFE to live under the canopy of your parents. 4. You Failed as a HUSBAND if you do not know that you’re the Chief Security Officer to your WIFE. 5. You Failed as a HUSBAND if you easily tell your WIFE just because both of you have misunderstanding that the only thing that’s bringing both of you together is the children. 6. You Failed as a HUSBAND if you fail to understand that one of the ways to show your children love is by showing their mother love. 7. You are a Solid Failure as a HUSBAND if you believe lies against your WIFE and Trust Outsiders instead of your WIFE. My Brother, you’re playing with Fire that May consume you. 8. Sir, if you push t...

*_Respectful Speech: Building Unity in Marriage_* The words we speak in marriage hold great power. Disrespectful speech not only harms the relationship between husband and wife but also undermines the authority of the spouse in front of the children. Parents are called to show self-control in their speech, modeling respectful communication both with each other and within the family. *"Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers"* (Ephesians 4:29). Disrespect, whether through harsh words, criticism, or mocking, can sow seeds of division. When children witness parents speak disrespectfully to one another, it erodes the sense of unity and mutual respect that God designed for the family. *"Every kingdom divided against itself is brought to desolation, and every city or house divided against itself will not stand"* (Matthew 12:25). A lack of unity in marriage weakens the foundation of ...

  19 WAYS TO FIX YOUR WIFE - WHEN SHE IS FALLING APART! Your wife can be dying in silence while still performing her wifely duties. You will need to know her to know when she needs to be fixed. When a woman is always moody, cries a lot, yells on children, can easily sleep or sleeps a lot, she may be battling with something you are not careful enough to see. A real man will not allow his wife to fall apart without fixing her and making her better and happy. If you discover your wife is falling apart, watch out and fix the following: 1. CHECK IF YOU ARE THE PROBLEM You might be her problem, but out of her respect and love for you, she may not tell you. Ask, let her talk sincerely. 2. BE AWARE OF HER RESPONSIBILITIES Get to know how her work load is killing her. Regardless of whether she stays at home or goes to work, do you know what she does all day? If you don’t, ask her. Her to-do list is probably overflowing with tasks that far outweighs her time and energy. 3. BE APPRECIATIVE Be...

  *_Guarding Against Deception: The Power of Belief_* A lie doesn't truly become deception until it takes root in your belief. It's like a seed that needs fertile soil to grow. Once you accept the lie, it starts to weave its way into your thoughts, influencing your actions and perceptions. The danger lies in the moment you internalize it, allowing it to shape your reality. In the Bible, Jesus spoke of the importance of truth. He said, *"You shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free"* (John 8:32). This means that the truth brings liberation, while lies lead to bondage. Lies often begin as small distortions, but they can multiply and entangle us in a web of deceit. Proverbs 14:15 warns, *"The simple believes every word, but the prudent considers well his steps."* This is a reminder that not everything we hear or think is true. We must exercise discernment, evaluating information against the truth of God's Word. The apostle Paul also advised, ...

  *_Pride Before the Fall: A Call to Humility_* Pride and arrogance are deeply offensive to God. They reveal how little we truly understand about His sovereignty and grace. *"The fear of the Lord is to hate evil; pride and arrogance and the evil way and the perverse mouth I hate"* (Pro 8:13). When we are filled with pride, we fail to acknowledge that everything we have; our wealth, talents, education, and even our very breath—belongs to God. Some may take pride in their social status, feeling superior to others because of their position in society. Others may boast of their wealth, believing that their material success is solely the result of their own efforts. Still, others may take pride in their education or qualifications, thinking their intellect sets them apart. Even something as seemingly trivial as pride in one's driving skills can become a source of arrogance. These attitudes are all rooted in a deep misunderstanding: we own nothing, and everything we have is onl...

  *_Clean Hands, Pure Heart: God's Standard for Righteousness_* *"Every way of a man is right in his own eyes, but the Lord weighs the hearts"* ~Proverbs 21:2 This verse from Proverbs speaks to a truth we often overlook: while we may justify our actions and even convince ourselves that we are in the right, God sees beyond what we do—He sees the intentions and motives behind our actions.  We live in a world where appearances often matter more than what’s on the inside. People put on shows of righteousness, acting in ways that seem good on the outside, but God is not impressed by outward displays if they do not stem from a heart that is pure before Him. *"Who may ascend into the hill of the Lord? Or who may stand in His holy place? He who has clean hands and a pure heart"* (Psalm 24:3-4). Clean hands symbolize righteous actions, but a pure heart reflects sincere motives. God desires both. It is easy to fall into the trap of performing good deeds to be seen by othe...

  *_Facing Eternity: Savior or Judge on That Day_* One day, every single person will stand before Jesus Christ. This is an undeniable reality. Some will meet Him as their Savior, while others will meet Him as their Judge. The Bible clearly teaches that each of us has an appointment with eternity, and the way we live now determines how we will meet Him. Jesus, in His mercy, came to earth as a Savior, offering salvation to all who would believe in Him. *"For the Son of Man has come to seek and to save that which was lost"* (Luke 19:10). He gave His life on the cross so that we could be forgiven of our sins and have eternal life. For those who repent and trust in Him, Jesus will meet them as a loving Savior, welcoming them into His eternal kingdom. However, for those who reject Him, the encounter will be vastly different. The Bible warns that Jesus will return as a righteous Judge. *"For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, that each one may receive the th...

  *_Standing Firm: The Enemy Cannot Change Who You Are_* The enemy, Satan, has no power to change who we are in Christ. His greatest weapon is not transformation, but deception. He seeks to make us doubt our identity, to question who we are and what Christ has done for us. But the truth is that our identity in Christ is unshakable, established by God’s eternal promises. The enemy’s strategy is always rooted in lies. Just as he tempted Eve in the Garden of Eden by casting doubt on God’s words, he tries to do the same to believers today. He whispers lies, hoping to make us doubt our worth, our salvation, and our relationship with God. But his power is limited—he cannot change us. *"You are of God, little children, and have overcome them, because He who is in you is greater than he who is in the world"* (1 John 4:4). This truth reminds us that the power of Christ within us far outweighs anything the enemy can do. Our identity in Christ is secure. *"For you are all sons of G...

MARRIAGE IS GIVE AND TAKE 1. When a woman is humble, she becomes a natural charm to her husband 2. When a woman is submissive, she gets what she desires from her husband 3. When a woman is trustworthy, she can control her husband's finances 4. When a woman is hospitable, she can host her husband's meetings 5. When a woman is friendly, she becomes her husband's best friend 6. When a woman is jovial and playful, she can unlock her husband's sad mood 7. When a woman is appreciative, she receives unexpected gifts from her husband 8. When a woman is respectful, she can attend her husband's cultural meetings with him 9. When a woman is understandable, her husband feels free to tell her even the ugly 10. When a woman is peaceful, her husband comes rushing home each time 11. When a woman is tender hearted, she makes a great mother for her kids 12. When a woman is slow tempered, she knows when to approach her husband in times of misunderstandings and arguments 13. When a wom...