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  BEST INHERITANCE YOU CAN GIVE TO YOUR CHILDREN 1. WISDOM Wisdom is not graded in schools, wisdom is acquired through life experiences. The best people to teach wisdom are the parents. Mentor your children, share with them your experiences, don't allow them to learn tough lessons through trial and error yet you can impart in them awareness that will make them wiser and go further than you 2. SOCIAL SKILLS This is one of the most important inheritance you can give them because life is about relationships. Teach your children how to handle self, how to handle sisterhood and brotherhood, how to handle the opposite gender, how to choose the right company, how to make friends and keep friends, how to interact and socialize, how to communicate. This will help your children as they leave your nest 3. HEALTHY VIEW OF FAMILY If you damage your children's view of marriage you might damage them for life. As a couple, model to them what a healthy couple looks like; the experiences at home...

  *THE A, B, C, D OF INTIMACY IN MARRIAGE* A: Always love your spouse. B: Believe in each other.  C: Celebrate each other often.  D: Don't argue but always reason together.  E: Expect imperfections from your spouse.  F: Fix solutions to problems quick  G: Go for a walk together once a week.  H: Hold each others' hands often.  I: Ignite the passion in your spouse daily.  J: Just laugh over issues worth criticizing.  K: Kill the spirit of unhealthy competition.  L: Let your spouse know your movements.  M: Make love like newly weds.  N: No separate room for you both.  O: Oppose any intruder or third party. P: Pray together always.  Q: Quality time should be spent together.  R: Resist every temptation of infidelity.  S: Stay positive to each others' vision.  T: Take no record of past offence.  U: Utilize every opportunity to bond.  V: Visualize a glorious future together.  W: Win each ot...

   ARE YOU EMOTIONALLY CLOSE?   When most people hear intimacy, their minds jump straight to BODY CONTACT. The truth is, you can be BODY CONTACT active with your spouse and still feel emotionally distant. You can share a bed but not your heart. And when emotional closeness is missing, even BODY CONTACT starts to feel hollow. Today, let’s talk about a different kind of intimacy—the one that holds your marriage together when life gets messy, when kids come, when stress piles up, or when passion isn’t enough on its own. *What Is Emotional Intimacy?* Emotional intimacy is about feeling safe, seen, and truly known. It’s when you can say, “I’m not okay,” and your spouse doesn’t try to fix it or dismiss it—but listens, understands, and stands with you. It’s when you know your thoughts, fears, dreams, and triggers are not just heard—but held with care. SIGNS YOU’RE EMOTIONALLY DISTANT  🚩You talk, but only about logistics—kids, bills, chores 🚩You avoid vulnerable conversati...

  Attention Parents and Guardians Let’s talk before you send your child somewhere this holiday… Your child just finished their final exams in high school and you are just thinking: “How can I keep them busy? They must not waste this long break!” August- mid September.  I get it. It’s a long holiday, and you want them to learn something useful. Maybe tailoring, coding, baking, barbing, makeup—or even small business training. But before you rush off and register them anywhere, pause and think: "Where am I sending my child to?" Because not every place that teaches skills builds character. Some of these environments look okay on the surface, but deep down, they are damaging. And I’ve seen too many children come back from these "training places" with new habits, strange behaviours, and broken values. So please, before you hand your child over to anyone for holiday learning, ask the hard questions. Because the wrong environment can do more damage than good. Some of this c...