When Your Marital Foundation is Wrong

 

WHEN YOUR MARITAL FOUNDATION IS WRONG 

Ps. 11:3

If the foundations are destroyed, what can the righteous do?

No reasonable person marries to divorce his or her spouse. Before you say I do, watch out for the red flags and resolve them. Where they are unresolvable, go to God in prayer and seek godly counsel.

Marriage is hard work. For your marriage to be what you want, the couple must work together in partnership with God who institutes marriage. Marriage doesn't work by chance, fame, and wealth but rather through hard work and prayer.

FACTORS THAT LEAD TO MARITAL BREAKDOWN.

1. When the woman or man has things he or she cannot afford. 

This means that a man or woman is living above what he or she means. Don't marry a covetous or worldly spouse. Marry a contented man or woman. That does not mean you cannot be ambitious. The life of a man does not consist of the abundance of what he possesses. Lk. 12:15.

2.  When there is no trust in the marriage 

A marriage dies when there is no trust. Marry someone you can trust and love with all your heart. Let your love be unconditional. Marriage doesn't change an unfaithful partner. If your partner is cheating on you before you get married, marriage will not stop him or her from cheating after your wedding. He will even get worse than he did before getting married. Prov. 31:11.

3. When God's word is absent in your marriage.

    Having a church wedding and great men of God come to bless your marriage on your wedding day doesn't mean God approved your marriage. The question is, is your marriage based on biblical principles? In a marriage where the word of God is not honored, God is absent in such marriage. If you refuse to apply the principles of God's word in your marriage, then be prepared to watch your marriage fall apart. Ps.119:105.

4. When partners are not mature enough to resolve their conflicts 

   No marriage is perfect. In every marriage, couples do have issues with each other or misunderstanding but it's their ability to resolve their conflicts that tells whether they are mature or not. Instead of doing something about your conflicts, leaving it to time and chance will not help solve them because time and chance don't transform marriage.  Eccl. 10:16.

5. When you marry the wrong person 

When you marry outside the will of God, you are likely to marry the wrong person. This may sound unreasonable to some people. You may love each other, and it may appear you are compatible and fit for one another. All these may collapse in the face of life challenges. You may not be able to face the heat when it comes. Your true anchorage is God. When you marry the right person, there will be genuine love and genuine and enduring peace. You will accept each other and you will truly become one to face the challenges of life in partnership with Christ. 

6. When the husband is not responsible.

 The pride of every man is the ability to take care of himself, his wife, and the children. Any man who cannot fulfill this obligation has no business being in a marriage. When the woman is the one taking up this responsibility, that marriage is likely may be heading toward destruction if the woman is not mature and strong enough to hold forth while trusting God to come through for them. 2Corinth. 6:14.

Friends, if you build your marriage on the wrong foundation, it is a matter of time before, before marriage fails.