There Things That Destroy A Marriage And How To Safeguard Against Them

 

THREE THINGS THAT D.E S.T.R.O.Y MARRIAGE

Have you ever seen a crawling baby scattering a well arranged house? Their grip is usually very strong and they can scatter what will take a whole day to put in order in just a few minutes. 

Same way, there are some aspects of marriage that are quick in s.c.a.t.t.e r.i.n.g the union if not properly handled. Here are the top three among many others: 

1. SEX

Once a husband and his wife are unable to deeply understand each other sexually, every other aspect of their union 

s.u.f f.e.r.s, even their prayer life!

That is why it is wise for newlyweds to give ample time (say a few months) to explore and understand each other sexually. 

Unfortunately in Nigeria, most husbands impregnate their wives on the night after wedding, even when they probably do not know that pregnancy is capable of changing how a woman behaves; specifically in the aspect of sex and generally. 

Men that are sexually satisfied in marriage will most likely not venture into e.x t.r.a marital affairs. That is why it is very important for couples to be intentional about making their sex life work.

2. MONEY

Another factor that is quick to d.e.s t.r.o.y marriage is money. 

Usually, being financially transparent with one's spouse is the best approach when it comes to handling money in marriage. 

Many couples are not in unity when it comes to issues of finance. Meanwhile, God does not expect anything to put asunder to what He has joined. (including money). The ideal thing is for two to become one in all aspects. 

Intending couples ought to sit and discuss how they'll keep their money when they get married, what kind of purse they'll operate (single purse, joint purse, joint + single purse etc). 

Remember, failure to plan is planning to 

f.a i.l.

3. COMMUNICATION.

This is another vital aspect of marriage that causes p.r o.b l.e.m.s when it is not properly executed. 

Any couple who desires to succeed in marriage must understand effective communication. 

Lack of communication can turn husband and wife to a total stranger. 

Improperly communicated thoughts can be misconstrued and that could spark up fresh c.o.n.f l.i.c t.s in marriage. 

One of the problems couples face in communicating with their partner is to apportion b.l a m.e instead of just making their points. Couples must learn to communicate without putting the blame on their partner. 

Learning to speak from what your partner will gain is another strong tool in communication. Naturally, people pay more attention when the person speaking to them is able to itemize what's in for them. 

Ideally, every intending couple ought to take a course on Effective Communication in Marriage before embarking on the marital journey. 

May our Marriage Succeed in Jesus name.