Before You Say I Do

 

BEFORE YOU SAY I DO 

Marriage isn’t competition !Let no one or situation push or pressure you into what you aren’t prepared for !Marriage isn’t wedding ceremony !Marriage is a life time matter.Marriage is hard-work.It is better to suffer some pains of waiting now than to be sorry in marriage .You need to be patient and never hurry.Based on my marriage experience,I can say boldly that ten broken relationship is better than a broken marriage !You have got to take your time and get it so that you will not suffer later.Being a single sister or brother doesn’t make you less important than the married .Don’t let anyone paint a picture to make you inferior or less .There is time for everything so BEFORE YOU SAY YES I DO.Ask yourself these questions

1:Have you prayed through ?Have you got clarification and confirmation on what the mind of God is about him or her ?Is he or she God’s will for your life .Is he or she God’s plan for you ?Make sure you pray and commit it to God.

Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding.Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take.

Only God knows the secret things ,Jeremiah 17:9 “The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. 

 Who really knows how bad it is?Be wise .

2: Is he or she a born again ? Is he or she saved ?What friendship has light got to with darkness?Are you both born again? Unequal-yoke marriage will definitely attract its own negative consequences, because it's an outright violation of God's Word, that leaves such marriages with a lot of confusion, tolerance, fights and spiritual imbalance (2 Cor. 6:14-18). 

It is important to observe your partner’s love for God ,Why ?because in time ,the way he or she loves and serves God will be reflected in the way he or she loves and serves you.

You can’t convert anyone .It’s the Holy Spirit who does the work of conviction!conversion .Don’t he or she will become born again after we marry or I will change him or her.Be wise 

3:Can he or she complement to help to fulfill my life purpose ?Amos 3:3 Can two work together except there Be agreement .Your life visions ,dreams and goals should tally with each other to level that can complement each other .You need to need you identify what your purpose is .That way you can now tell if he or she will be able will be able to complement you .You spouse to be must be committed to you and your life purpose .Be wise 

4: Does he /she share the same faith belief with ? Even when he or she is a Christian ,Do both of you share the same beliefs ?Does he or she believe in tithing,helping the poor,speaking in tongues ,

5:Have you discussed your differences?You need to discuss those basics things that are very different between you .For instance family background ,education background,differences between a a man and woman [physiology ,mannerism,habits etc] 

6:Have found out more about his /her character/life style.Character is a very important part you need to check .The character a man or woman exhibits tells you what the person will be like in future .By their fruit you shall know .Don’t be carried away about gifts /skills /fame .Men and woman of character are trustworthy in all they do and have appetite for righteousness .They will keep their words no matter what cost 

7: How many books ,tapes ,message have read listen to on relationship ,courtship ,marriage ,sex,the temperaments ,how to make love ,what makes woman or woman enjoy sex,finances in marriage,how to deal with mother in laws,what is love for a woman ,how to turn a man or woman on ,how to cook,the difference between a man and woman,how to dress Daniel said I discovered /understand by books Daniel 9:2 ,John 8:32, Hosea 4:6

8 Have you seek parental and spiritual counsel ? “Where there is no counsel, the people fall; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety.” (Proverbs 11:14)

The need to seek counsel is inevitable .Our parents have ahead of us and they have crossed a lot of rivers in life !They see farther !So their counsel also go a long way to help shape our decision 

In conclusion I want to say that there isn’t any perfect man or woman anywhere!Every man and woman has a past/flaw.Marriage is about two imperfect people who have agreed ,learn to forgive each other and live together .

Above all a broken courtship is better than a broken marriage .Be wise!